Next week, on Tuesday evening we will consider the quote:"Don't make assumptions. Eliminate gossip. Making assumptions is a setup for suffering because usually we gossip about our assumptions. We make assumptions and believe we are right, then we defend our assumptions and try to make others wrong."
~Don Miguel Ruiz from The Four Agreements
On Thursday afternoon, the moderator chose the topic:
"Reducing personal importance is one of the most important steps on our path to freedom."
~from the Living the Four Agreement Wisdom Group ethics.
peace and love
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Talking about gossiping my mom and I were talking just the other day and she was trying to tell me about a friend of mine and I told my mom it wasnt any of my business. She then goes on to tell me I dont like gossiping. I told her no I dont esp when it comes to my friends I dont. I think that is how lies get started about a person and then you can ruin so many people with gossiping so I am not one to do it at all. I may tell some one my opinion of another but never out right talk about them behind there backs like I know others do. I am babbling again. Sorry.
Hey, babble away.
Thats what blogs are for!
ha ha
I appreciate your input, thankyou Tweetey.
I think assumptions are natural, but rather than jump to a conclusion, I think it's best to learn to communicate and check out the assumption to see if it's got truth to it or not. As for reducing personal importance...this seems like a counterintuitive thing to do...can you explain it a little more?
Hi WC,
Thanks for your insights.
Assumptions are a habit for me, but you're right, I can learn to ask questions and listen carefully rather than think my assumptions are the "truth".
As for reducing personal importance. I see that as Increasing Self Love and respect,
but not taking judgements(my own and others), events and circumstances Personally.
I remind myself continually that I really don't know much about reality or what is in another's mind, so I don't have to make conclusions or believe anything.
Yet I keep an open mind and heart.
That makes sense to me. Initially, I balked at the idea because "reducing personal importance" kinda sounded to me like "I am not important" or "I should put others before me."
Yeah, it does seem like a paradox. Because one of the main Toltec truths is to never go against oneself.
Unconditional self love is what will transform your life.
However, somehow its not to be confused with self importance. The ego-mind self, the program, our conditioned self can be taken down a notch or two.
Unless you're like me and have a personality disorder...then you're always striving to bring yourself UP a notch or two.
hmmmm. Interesting point.
Perhaps it can be an advantage to see the virus in the program and to know its a program to be able to start being free of it all together.
I don't know.
(That's why I have a mentor to help me)
Great points girls. I love how you two broke this down and just went with it. But its true though. Assumptions are just what people do and then dont care to look at the other stuff around them to see if that assumption was true or not. They take it as face value and run with it.
And that's why I have a support group!
Yah!
:>D
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