The Wisdom Group will meet this Tuesday at 7:30 to discuss the Topic:"I am what I am. I accept myself as I am. I don't need to please other people by pretending to be what I am not. I can never be what I am not. I can only be me, and that's it."
On Thursday we will gather together to consider:
"Spirit is formless, but our minds are structured from the conditioning of our parents, school, media, and society. Following set patterns of thinking has helped us to survive and get along in life, but at the same time these structures often cause us to judge ourselves and others and retrict our communication with divine love and light."
peace and love
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These two statements are so true. People do judge others by what and how we were raised. Its ridiculous but some of us get past it ans some of us dont. I have reflected on that you dont tease others and trying very hard to teach my children that. Lets put it this way. A little girl my daughter goes to school with has problems with her legs and Kora has a hard time keeping her mouth shut about it. I keep telling her no dont say stuff like that. That isnt nice and the next time she shes this little girl she makes another unwanted comment. You know how bad I just want to smack her for making those comments. You dont make fun of them you help them and those in need like that. Yikes. Oh well hopefully the message will get sunk in soon. Tweets.
Very poignant. Damn, I wish I could come to your meetings!!!
Despite all of that, so many people struggle to accept who they are and that it's ok to just be. Recently, a young man who boarded at a friend's house while he was studying committed suicide because he was gay and afraid of what the family would have thought. But judgement takes away our true selves and robbed this man of his life. I believe he judged himself more harshly than his family ever would have. Even if their reaction had been adverse.
Hi Tweetey.
Thats a complicated one. I love that children can still be honest. Maybe her comments don't hurt the other little girl? I guess we won't know unless you ask her.
Wow Tanya,
What a sad story.
I do believe we have internalised the voice of the judge in our own heads and have become our own worse Judges.
The group has been great. Its like a support group to counteract all the craziness that can be in our world. I can't begin to express how wonderful it is to have 6-12 people come into my livingroom week after week, sharing their insights on how to be more loving and inclusive. It is very inspiring to know that we are slowly changing.
I have to say its true that we judge our selves harsher sometimes than other people. That is a sad story. I know some gay people personally and I dont care what there preferences are but that is me. I mean if that is what they want in there lives that is fine you know what I mean. But I also know that these people arent real sure how there parents will react when they find out. I mean my mother in law is gay. She has five kids and 11 grandchildren and I dont judge her for it but I do dislike when she pushes her partner at my children as grandma this or that when her partner is only 8 years older than my husband. Its hard on the girls to understand that they have three grandpa's and three grandma's. Well anyway that is besides the point here I think. Sorry. I went off on one of my tangents again. Its lunch time and my baby is hungry. Shes only two and a half. Going on five some days. LOL... Well thanks for posting this. Its interesting to see if we can relate to the quotes. Tweets.
Hmmm. Most interesting comments here! It IS important to learn how to be who we are and not worry about what others think. A life-long lesson, to be sure!
This must be one of your "mature" horses! So glad to meet him/her. :)
Hi Ginnie,
Yes, this is Jewel, a 15 year old mare....but she can still run like the wind.
I have never been on a horse but that is my goal before I get to old to do so. LOL.. I am only 30 and talking about being old. LOL.. Beautiful animals. I love animals just as much as I love my kids. Well anyway thanks for having me part of your discussions here. I really enjoy them. It is hard to be yourself in this day and time. Most people look at you if you dont do something right or what you think right. Its hard on people in general. But again I have chores. I always have something going on around the house. Esp now that we ahve to have part of our roof fixed. I will post that maybe after we fix it with the details. Well off to work I go. Have a good day. Tweets.
It's complicated but I feel that when we judge someone it is really a judgement about ourselves and how we see the situation. You can never really know all the facts about others, sometimes the truth about ourselves is difficult to access. We all have made mistakes of some form or another, it is therin where we come to realize our limitations and our aspirations.
I like what Tolle says, that given the same circumstances as others, we would do the same things they do. It's impossible to verify that, isn't it? But I try to think of it when I start to feel judgmental. Judging myself is the easiest to do. Man, it takes practice, practice, practice to unstructure those old patterns.
I agree, it would be such a luxury to have a group that meets like yours.
Tweetey,
Thankyou for being part of the discussions. Other's points of view give me new perspectives.
Tim,
I think that is one of the great things about the gathering of others in my livingroom every week.....is the chance to "see" parts of myself mirrored back to me. We can definitely be mirrors for each other.
Ruth,
Byron Katie has some great insights regarding this subject as well. Loving What Is, is the name of her book, and sums up her message.
We can waste so much personal energy judging others. I think observing and discerning has their place, however.
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