This Tuesday , March 6th, the topic is
"In remembering not to take things personally, we are free to not believe anyone, including ourselves. Reducing personal importance is one of the most important steps on our path to freedom."
On Thursday, Margaret-Heather picked a card from the "Voice of Knowledge" deck with the quote by Don Miguel Ruiz;
"I don't take anything personally.
I am a secondary character in other people's stories. I know that whatever people say about me is just a projection of their image of me. It has nothing to do with me."
peace and love,
11 comments:
This so relevant to me right now. I've been reading A Course in Miracles which talks about this world being an illusion and that we all project our guilt on to other people. It's a lot to take in but I love the fact that the Creator knows we are already perfect and we do not have to change our behaviour - just our minds.
Boy do I need to hear this right now! Thanks!
I always find these quotes you put up to be really poignant for that week. Thanks for the reminder.
I once told you that these quotes helped me afte bible study. Well I will explain why. Our pastor gets pushy sometimes and the way he says what he wants to get out I dont know if its me or him sometimes so when I read these quotes I get a better understanding of him sometimes. LOL.. I am not sure if you have checked out my blog recently with the issues of our pastor and what hes teaching. Hes not a bad person. I just think he gets fustrated easily. I try not to complain to much. I could go on forever here about that but wont. These quotes make sense and hopefully when we do our bible study tonight I will remember them. Thanks for sharing.
This is my favourite agreement, and I think the most important one. Also the hardest one to learn. But it is freeing, and I like what Margaret-Heather said about being a secondary character in other peoples' stories. Very good way to look at it.
I think what Eckhart Tolle says about the Ego is so relevant here. Most of what other pople say is about them and NOT about us. That helps me to not take things so personally!
The dog is priceless!
Thank you very much for the link, as well as the many great posts on your site. All very enjoyable. May I reciprocate and link back to you from my site?
The Ruiz quote is a good one. As I've said before...it'samazing how many of us and others take so many events and talk so personally.
It is liberating and even hilarious when we pull back our personal obsession with our selves and see most people aren't thinking about us al at.
This can go two ways as well:
Also, what makes me laugh...is one time I ran into an
old school buddy and we hadn't seen each other in ages...and she said what she remembered about me was me getting so obsessed about a pair of boots and how I saw them, then went to the bank completely out of my way(no ATMs then ha ha) all morning to pick them up.
I felt so many funny thoughts when she recalled this, one, wow, I wish I had presented perhaps a more "intelligent" persona...ha ha THAT is what you remember me for...shoe shopping. Okay, and I accept that and its so darn true...but also...I thought...it was a tiem when I had such enthusiasm and would get worked up and excited about something. Thats not such a bad thing because some people get old and cynical and don't remember that kind of energy and excitement for the moment or for life.
So sometimes, and this is a trick is not to take things personally, but also to understand or explore the metahpor of others perceptions of ourselves.
I know I learn a lot from the observations of my boyfriend, and sometimes it's just terribly funny and makes me take myself much less seriously?
I think we need to really grasp "don't take things personal" but later...after we practice that...not to forget to be able to laugh at ourselves...we can learn a lot that way too.
Always so great to come and see you Healing Room lots of love,
Candy
Jennifer,
Wow, my hats off to anyone who can read A Course In Miracles!!! I love the message but thats just too much reading for me.
They are very similiar at the heart of what is conveyed.
Tanya,
I am so happy to be of service!
I do find that this particular agreement to be challenging......I was taught at a young age to take everything personally. so I can use alot of reminders as I let go of that erroneous belief.
Tweetey,
That is fascinating about your pastor. Thankyou for sharing more.
Wandering Coyote,
The agreement to Not Make Assumptions also helps me to not take things personally. Especially when I have realised through observation that I am CONSTANTLY making assumptions myself.....making up stories about others, so it follows that they are probably doing the same in their heads too.
Hi Ginnie,
Eckhart is an awesome example of someone who is not taking anything personally. His DVD's are a treat.
Hey dr. psy.
Thanks for coming by. Yes, that would be lovely if you posted a link at your blog.
Candy,
Nice to see you back. Great to see your long posts here.. always a pleasure to read!
Another way I view Not taking anything personally is that I am in the middle of Mystery and I don't know. And I LIKE that I don't know. I am ok with it. There is no personal importance but there is interest and curiousity about what is going to happen next.
I agree with most of the discussion here. I must admit that I sometimes take things personally and I'm learning to let go of things(judgements). As we live our lives, points of view and exchanges regarding personal importance are fleeting and exchangable. Our own personalities and needs adjust to particular circumstances and events(don't bug me until I've had my morning coffee, ha, ha). We are all learrning to be more tolerant and to live as best as possible in a manner free from negativity. I wonder that my own worst critic is often my own voice.
Tim, I think the idea of our own worst critic is our own voice...is at the heart of the idea of not taking things personally. If we can take things with a grain of salt from others, and I mean judgements particularily, then maybe we can learn to not listen to our own negativity.
However...the critic's voice is an important one. Not for personal attacks on each other or ourselves...but for standing up to problems and intolerance in the wold. We must take caution to not allow ourselves to buckle at intolerance but to stand up against wickenedness and intolerance we see in our communities and the world.
We may not know every thing...but if we don't know what "doing the right thing is" then what's the point of any anyself knowledge or awareness?
Asking always...where are the others?
Hi
Tim,
I noticed that my inner voice was the meanest to me as well. I am happy to report that the voice is totally programable. If its going to say something it might as well be life enriching.
The less self-judgemental I am, the less judging I am of others, ect.
Hi Candy.
I see the critic's voice as Inquiring, being curious, being observant and discerning.
In light of this advice,
what do you mean by, "Asking always....where are the others?"
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